Therefore, I only bring it up to people if I cant avoid the person and just deal with it because I feel that I shouldnt dictate how others live their own lives. BINGO. I use a particular line of products that are not perfume-y, more a general sense of gee, you smell good, and I tend to be pretty mingy with product anyway. That is a very specific smell that many associate with granola hippie types. But if she has a life-threatening allergy thats on a hair trigger, youd have to ask coworkers and their families to change everything in their routines, and Im still not sure it would work. I have spoken to my manager who has spoken to my coworker several times but . But what if she likes patchouli? Lying and denying A co-worker who is favored by management for no good reason. Didn't find the answer you were looking for? Should I say something? Ive never had anyone else mention my scent unless I specifically ask, and even then its usually so faint that they have to sniff the crook of my elbow or whatever to smell it. Try using earplugs. I dont wear it often (I find it soothing and will sometimes put a little on in the evening, just on my wrist and just for me). I do feel for people who can barely leave their homes due to their sensitivities, even if Im not convinced everyones hygiene regimen should revolve around them. Has your boyfriend gone to an ENT? Lots of open space and cubicles and the offices are reserved for leadership. Some spells last for hours, some all day and some effect me breathing as well as I am constantly sniffling. Stressful couple of days. Its also not a popular smell for body fragrances either, which tend to be floral or fruit based. Its like the difference between having a smoke-free workplace and demanding that employees not smoke at home. I believe in this case, the OP is white (based on the photo Gmail sends with the email, which of course isnt 100% conclusive). Continuous sinus nose pressure after 2nd child? But I love my body wash and would be very unwilling to give it up as it doesnt seem to be nearly as potent as perfume. You can address bad office behavior by telling people when their actions are not OK with you. (and frankly, it is no longer OPs problem to address. This person took a fan ad pointed it st me daily. There's no need for you to take it any further. I like the idea to get a blunt friend to do the sniff test, but basically I think the ideas about limiting physical contact are the best way to go at this point; Im a little afraid of sending the OP down a rabbit hole of onerous scent minimization that may not solve the problem. Been over 10 years now. The Rooster is always quick to assign blame. Entomology researchers that work with disparlure, the pheromone for gypsy moths, can continue to attract gypsy moth males for many years after they stopped working with disparlure even perhaps their entire lives. If symptoms last more than a month and over-the-counter remedies havent done the trick, its time to see a physician.. I drank way too much Goldschlager when I was in high school and still cant deal with it! It can be very painful and isolating to have this kind of sensitivity. I am sorry youre going this. Grandboss there actually had a candle burning that was majorly causing issues, and heis version of being accommodating was to ask what candles I burn at homeNone, I have asthma. But a co-worker? Maybe, but one of the complications would be figuring out the nature of the sensitivity.. I love scented candles and I burn them regularly at home. My cat peed on a mattress after a surgery and I could not get the smell out of my nose. If she had a genuine allergy, would she not also be having a genuine allergic reaction? Theyve done studies where a bunch of cotton balls are all scented with the same unscented lotion and then people rate and describe the smell of the different unnamed new scents that have different art with them. Its smells. The reason to ask someone who doesnt live with you is that we can stop smelling things after a while, so a partner or roommate might not be able to smell it either. It would suck for OP if it is her entire wardrobe and she just cant smell it. They Don't Like You So Im pretty inclined to read the comments as coworker being a jerk instead of actually having difficulty working with a smelly coworker. Im not trying to like, lecture you, but I really think more people should be made aware of just HOW BAD Febreeze is. My sensitivities dont entitle me to that kind of control over another person, the LWs coworkers dont either. Its not workable. What she doesn't know is that I love to sniff all her friends shoes. :(, He even complained once a full year! Its so heavily scented (even the I scented version) that it will likely be much much worse. I didnt know the immune system could even distinguish between synthetic and natural molecules, but it sounds fascinating. Im genuinely curious about this. Is there something else youre hoping Ill try? Many workplaces provide handbooks to their employees that outline policies and rules. Same with strawberry shortcake and popcorn. Oh gosh, nothing makes you paranoid like cat pee. Dolores had a desk about thirty feet away and told me to stop and that the smell was making her sick. If not, I need you to stop commenting about something that I cant do anything about. I dont have any advice, but I am wondering how it is fair or reasonable that the OP should even have to make all of these concessions at her own expense because her coworker wont stop picking on her. Wow. I worked with someone who really didnt like one of our co-workers so she was constantly making mean comments about this person scent and appearance. Chicken is the reason I gave up vegetarianism after 7 years and I honestly could go without any other meat lamb is nice, steak is good occasionally. Thats so interesting! Hmmmm food for thought. I cant hear what my sons saying if hes sitting next to me but facing the other direction, but cant not hear him eating popcorn from the other room. Next day had the worst hangover of my life. 8 Tips on How to Deal With Difficult People at Work. Using Chat for Office Communication. Im going to ask that we stop with those suggestions now and instead focus on how she should deal with the coworker, which I think will be more helpful to her. The brain is, if youll pardon the expression, at the heart of a lot of this. Im mostly fine with Irish Spring soap, which has a pretty heavy fragrance that makes me sneeze occasionally, but when I ran out recently and had to use a bar of a more lightly-scented soap that was supposed to be good for sensitive skin, I started breaking out in hives. How best to handle a situation like this? At least she would actually SEE you trying something and, who knows, it might take care of any lingering scents. So, cutting out caffeine completely helped a lot, but doesn't help completely. Im pretty sensitive to smells (my husband says Im part bloodhound; I just say that Im allergic to everything), and my husband, back when we were dating, used the most foul-smelling (to me) soaps and laundry detergent. The OP writes that she wears scents with patchouli on the weekend. Although her coworker would probably be like your smock smells bad., I, for one, welcome my new sterilization chamber overlords. provided by the hotel. Sure, it could be that theres a specific scent here (like patchouli) that others in the office dont have, but it does seem a little unusual that the OP is the only one getting complaints. I dont even own any alcohol-based spray-type perfumes, just oils and solid perfumes, and I still refer to them all as just perfume, so I think thats what OP meant. Im bringing this angle up because your coworker was wearing it after a weekend and doesnt seem to wear it every day. Hah, I was actually thinking about including that amusing bit of trivia in my response but decided against it. Ive asked her to stop, and Id like to ask you to intervene if it continues, because its becoming disruptive, and franklyat this point her continued complaints are starting to feel like harassment., (To be clear, this doesnt sound likeharassment in the legal sense that would need to be based on race, sex, religion, or another protected characteristic but its certainly harassing in the colloquial sense. I only hope people can try to understand and have some compassion for people like us. Im not, and Ive told her Im not. Allergies. And Im damn sure not asking that of all my friends and family. Wait, shes not allergic or so scent-sensitive that its giving her headaches, or other negative physiological effects? They ruin maple ice cream for them? Im quite certain that nobody else around her is making this much of an effort to be scent-free. If I had to start changing out my entire home routine to unscented products and avoiding incense and oils at home just to avoid bringing them into the office well chances are Id probably start stinking like cat. Id ask the co-worker to describe the smell and when she smells it. No flowers, no lotions, no perfumes, no candles, wallflowers, diffusers, etc. Therefore, I only bring it up to people if I cant avoid the person and just deal with it because I feel that I shouldnt dictate how others live their own lives. i think many of the suggestions here are verging on unreasonable. Makes me smell like an old shoe. But unless were also banning Axe body spray or Febreze from the public sphere (if only), people get to wear whatever scent they like in public even if it annoys some other people. But the world is literally full of smells. I like the idea of having her walk into the office blindfolded and walk by OP and around the entire workforce, as I read earlier in this thread. Im not surprised. This is me being petty (so maybe dont do what Im about to suggest), but if she makes some snide remark or complains again, say to her (in a really concerned voice): Have you considered getting help or initiating the ADA accommodation process? They want to give my seat to others wearing cologne. Right; this is where the psychology of scent gets complicated, because everything and everybody has a scent, and everything and everybody is made of chemicals. This exactly. I really hope thats not it. If thats the case, theres nothing LW can do. Every. It sounds like your coworker is a drama llama and shes in the wrong. It drives me up the wall. Instead, shes making an ass of herself. Ive used both vinegar and baking soda (not together) to do this. It drives me nutty but Im also contributing to the issue. There could be other causes: Occasionally I feel like I can smell the soap my first boyfriend used, and it still makes me feel on edge (the relationship was, unfortunately, abusive). Not to derail, but Im hyposmic and I wash laundry with vinegar every once in a while to remove any lingering smells that might have escaped my notice. Apparently it made her sick when she was pregnant with me. 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